Friday, July 10, 2009

The Power of No

It's such a little word.

And yet, it's a very important one.

I don't think that I'm all that unusual in feeling as if I were raised with the belief that 'no' is a bad word. We are taught to always say yes with a big smile, no matter whether or not that particular question is good for us.

Say yes - so that people like you.

Say yes - so that you won't miss an opportunity.

Say yes - so that you will appear confident and capable.

Say yes - because it would be selfish to do otherwise.

Today I said no. In fact, I said no twice. No to a possible job opportunity that ultimately wasn't right for either my dreams or my family's goals, and no to a project that's been weighing on me for a while. I let myself speak truly from my heart - and not from my crazy/busy head - and the answer was a very calm, very definite no.

I feel quite liberated, and not a bit guilty. That's a big step for me.


Jenn said...

Yeah! Big pat on the back... hope you say it when needed (except to me. lol just kidding!)

Bonnie said...


A Day That is Dessert said...

Yay for saying no!! Not easy but so important sometimes.

Shelda said...

Good for you! And it does get easier with time, and with that rush of peace and pleasure that follows it, soon, if not immediately!